The Things I Carry by Alex Rister

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The “Things I Carry” project has been really inspirational.  My favorite “Things I Carry” so far was Chiara Ojeda’s elegant deck.  View it here.  I’ve been thinking a lot about the ten things I carry with me, and after a lunch with my superteacher BFF, my “Things I Carry” emerged.  As opposed to creating a deck of slides, I thought I would write an article on the ten things I value the most in life and carry with me on a daily basis…

SERVICE.  I’ve always been committed to service.  I’m not sure where this value came from, as neither one of my parents ever volunteered when I was growing up.  However, a huge part of my middle/high school and college experience was about giving back to my school and to my community.  Since then, I’ve always made time for work, school, and volunteer activities.

A GOOD BAUBLE.  My jewelry collection is pretty out of control because I firmly believe in the power of a good bauble.  I always feel more confident with a great pair of chandelier earrings or a nice chunky watch.

WORK.  I’ll admit it; I’m a workaholic.  I work 50 hours on a light week.  I also like to work in my off time, so “work” is something I value and carry with me at all times.  Whether I’m running three miles, volunteering for an organization I care about, or sweating it out while working in the yard, I really do enjoy hard work.  It’s fun!

A CAT MENAGERIE.  I’m a cat lady.  I am “mom” to 3 precious cats: Sailor, Lily, and Sparks.  My husband and I also feed 3 outside cats though only one is my sweet baby: Bailey.

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THE WORD “YES.”  This does get me in a lot of trouble.  I immediately say “yes” to everything… often without thinking.  Great ideas, new plans, and possibilities are exciting to me.  However, I find that I am exhausted at the end of each day because I say “yes” to everything and everyone.  I also sometimes accidentally double-book because I want to do too many great things at the same time, which leads me to the sixth thing I carry…

CALENDAR.  My Lilly Pulitzer calendar is my favorite.  I prefer a hard copy of a calendar as opposed to something on my phone or on my computer.  This helps me stay organized despite a thousand appointments, activities, duties, and errands.

SALTED CARAMEL ANYTHING.  I have a sweet tooth, and I love salted caramel anything: brownies, froyo, etc.  The ultimate is a salted caramel Nutella brownie.  Heaven!

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EDUCATION.  My learning-centered, research-based education has meant the world to me.  I earned an A.A. in Communication from Chipola College, a place that taught me the importance of balancing schoolwork and leadership.  Pursuing a B.A. in English from the University of Florida was a powerful experience, and I feel so fortunate to have attended one of the best schools in the nation.  I also earned my M.A. in English from UNF, and I’m going back to school for another M.A. in Communication.  One day, I will earn a PhD in Communication.  I can’t wait!  Teaching and learning are a core part of who I am, so I will always take classes as well as teach classes.

MY BUSTED WORK LAPTOP.  It’s currently rocking an external keyboard because I work so much that my center keys don’t function properly.  A few months ago, my poor laptop was so overused that the screen came unhinged from the keyboard.  I had to send it to the Mac doctor for about six months, and after getting it back, it only took six more months before the most recent keyboard issue.  My laptop is a champ!  She might be hideous and beaten up, but she is the best.

REAL RELATIONSHIPS WITH PEOPLE.  In one of the best personal decisions I’ve ever made, I deleted my Facebook two years ago, and, along with it, a lot of baggage.  After giving up Facebook, I found that I had to work a bit harder to nurture a real life circle of friends.  It is definitely more difficult to call someone to find out how they’ve been doing as opposed to stalking their Facebook wall.  However, deleting my Facebook account really shined a light on the honest, real friendships and relationships in my life.  I’m so thankful to carry my husband, my family, and my best friends with me where ever I go.  Love them <3

I haven’t decided whether or not to turn this into a deck on Slideshare… Stay tuned :)

What things do YOU carry?

Things I Carry by Chiara Ojeda

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The “Things I Carry” project has really taken off!  I’ve been thinking a lot about the things I carry, but I haven’t been able to come up with my list just yet.  The project really does ask us to step back and think about the physical objects but also the ideas and emotions we bring to the table as leaders.

Speaking of leaders, Chiara Ojeda has designed a gorgeous yet simple deck.  What I love most about this deck is its elegance.  The repeated dotted lines, clean graphics, a few personal pictures, and pastel colors stand out to me.  I also like the repeated “{ }” shapes around words and phrases.  Check out Chiara’s project here:

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If you want to see what Chiara does with the things she carries, check out her blog here.  Follow her on Twitter here.

Who has written or designed your favorite “Things I Carry” project?  Chiara takes the cake for me!  Share your favorite deck or article in the “Comments” section.

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Calling all thought-leaders!  LinkedIn has partnered with Slideshare to come up with something fresh and exciting.  According to their Slideshare page, “LinkedIn’s influencers shared their tools for success. What are yours? Share them here. Make sure to tag your presentation ThingsICarry” (Source).  I’ve already seen amazing articles written on LinkedIn from leaders such as Meg Whitman of Hewlett Packard, Vivian Schiller of NBC News, Jennifer Dulski of Change.org, and even Richard Branson!

This infographic was an interesting visual representation of what’s going on over at LinkedIn:

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What I loved most about this project was the Slideshare spin: a few of my favorite designers added beautiful slides into the mix.

Marisa Wong came up with the concept, so be sure to check out her “Things I Carry” presentation first:

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Next, check out “Things I Carry” Slideshare presentations from other superstars: Emiland de Cubber, Jonathon Colman, and Ruchi Garg.

What are the things YOU carry?  Will you be participating in the “Things I Carry” project?

8 Beliefs About Life… and Public Speaking: Part Two

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Catch up on the first half of the article containing the first four beliefs here: “8 Beliefs About Life… And Public Speaking: Part One.”  Geoffrey James’ four final beliefs about life that we can relate to public speaking are essential to conquering our presentation anxiety.

The fifth mantra James says we should repeat to ourselves is, “What I say reinforces what I think, so if something is about to come out of my mouth that doesn’t serve my purpose, I should simply keep my mouth shut” (Source).  I teach a public speaking and presentation class to business students, so I’ve seen a nervous breakdown or two.  These usually happen on speech day while a student is waiting to present.  Students can actually talk themselves out of presenting by engaging in negative self-talk.  Both thoughts and speech should be positive; otherwise, you can give into your lizard brain and allow your nerves to control you.  While you are waiting to present, it’s best to go over your speech in your head.  This helps you focus on the task at hand: delivering a strong speech… but it also helps you to stop thinking negative thoughts.

James’ sixth belief is, “I am responsible for my own happiness, so when other people are unkind to me, it reminds me to be kind to myself” (Source).  We can use this belief to help us with a speech that doesn’t go over as well as it could have with an audience.  Perhaps an audience member was offended by the presentation and says as much.  Maybe audience questions are a little confrontational.  If your speech doesn’t go over as well as you planned it, and if your audience is unkind, you must still be kind to yourself.  This rarely ever happens, but it could if the presenter doesn’t properly prepare or accidentally misspeaks in his or her presentation.  Keep in mind that as long as you are honest, authentic, and sincere when dealing with audience members who heckle, you can feel confident in your presentation at the end of the day.

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Seventh, James says we should believe, “There are five magic words that make even the most difficult business situation easier to handle. Those magic words are: ‘Do not take it personally’” (Source).  We have to remember, alongside belief six, that a presentation is out of our hands the moment we begin speaking.  The presentation is designed for the audience, so the audience determines whether or not the speech resonates with them.  We have to take our audience’s needs into consideration above all else in order to plan a successful speech.  However, even though the audience is important, we can’t take their reactions personally.  What if, instead of feeling pathetic and terrible about ourselves, we can work to take constructive criticism from an audience into consideration without taking it personally?  It is difficult, but if we can learn to do this, we can push ourselves to be stronger presenters and stronger people.

Last, but not least, James suggest we keep this in mind: “While there are situations (such as a death in the family) where strong emotions are appropriate, most business situations are not worth even an ounce of misery” (Source).  Again, it’s important to remember that even if your presentation falls flat and doesn’t connect with anyone, we must pick ourselves up and try again.  The outcome of a speech should not determine whether or not we are miserable that day/week/month… It’s just a presentation!  Putting the speech in perspective might just help us overcome our fear and push ourselves into exceptional speaker territory!

What beliefs could you add to the ones in James’ article to help us with overcoming our presentation anxiety?  How do you keep your fear in perspective?

8 Beliefs About Life… and Public Speaking: Part One

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Geoffrey James is one of my favorite contributing writers on Inc.com’s Leadership section.  His most recent article is called “8 Beliefs That Make You More Resilient,” and we can apply these 8 beliefs to public speaking and presentation.

First, James says we should believe that “[t]oday’s success can breed tomorrow’s failure if I let success make me complacent about staying motivated and moving forward” (Source).  When it comes to public speaking, we must never be so self-satisfied after one speech that we forget the hard work, preparation, and practice that it takes to be a successful presenter.  To be a superstar presenter means continuously moving forward, pushing and growing; otherwise, that one successful speech might be your last!

James’ second resilient belief is, “I learn more from failure than from success. Failure renews my humility, sharpens my objectivity and makes me more resilient” (Source).  Although I remember what it is like to successfully deliver a speech and have that positive audience reaction, I also learn from my terrible, boring, failed presentations.  These help me learn!  Clearly, I know what it takes to make that one successful speech successful.  It’s those failed speeches that make me work to uncover the mystery of how, why, and where I went wrong… and what I can do to turn things around next time.

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Third, James says we should believe, “Goals that contain the phrase ‘I’ll try…’ are self-defeating. If I want goals that truly motivate me, I use phrases like ‘I will’ and ‘I must’”(Source).  When it comes to presenting, students will often say to me, “I’ll try to get over my fear.”  Those students struggle because they don’t have the proper mindset.  Instead, they should say, “I will conquer this anxiety of speaking in front of a crowd” or “I am going to do this.”  The defeated mindset leads us into James’ fourth belief.

James’ fourth belief encourages us to embrace our fear: “What holds most people back is fear of failure, but if I don’t take action, I’ll fail by default, so what have I got to lose?”  (Source).  No one enjoys public humiliation.  Since the primary reason people don’t enjoy public speaking is because of that fear of failure on a large scale in front of a large audience, we must definitely understand that this fear holds us back from success and from greatness.  The fear of public speaking is so paralyzing that we may refuse to stand up and present our ideas in front of others.  However, we can understand our lizard brain and work to reframe those negative emotions and feelings.  If we keep repeating beliefs #3 and 4, we can reshape the way we view public speaking.

Stay tuned tomorrow for Part Two of “8 Beliefs About Life… And Public Speaking” containing the final 4 beliefs from James’ article!

Inspiration: Choice

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In the past, I’ve posted RSA Animate videos based upon Sir Ken Robinson’s Changing Education Paradigms speech and Iain McGilchrist’s discussion of the divided human brain.  This week, let’s take a look at another terrific animated video from Professor Renata Salecl.  The video is called “Choice,” and Salecl examines why choice causes anxiety, guilt, and – paradoxically – indecision as opposed to freedom.

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Since we are facing an election year, I think Salecl’s speech is really important.  If she’s arguing that choice prevents social change, what in the world are we going to do about the terrifying conditions we’re in?

Salecl’s powerful content makes us take a closer look at capitalism.  Our American economic system is praised because people have the power and freedom of choice; it’s a great thing!  But if we feel worse about ourselves when we make a choice, I wonder if there is some merit to eliminating all of these choices we have.  As Malcolm Gladwell explains in his TED Talk (you must watch it here), do we really need 6,000 different jars of spaghetti sauce in the grocery store?  We’ll never be happy with the one we picked!  Look at our divorce rate (nearly 50%) compared to cultures with arranged marriages… Now, I’m not arguing that we shouldn’t be free to marry the person we’re in love with, but we’re never satisfied with that husband or wife because we’re never satisfied with our choice.  There’s always something better out there.

Can we ever learn to make ourselves happy with our choices?  Is capitalism to blame?  What are your thoughts on Salecl and Gladwell’s ideas on the power of choice?

Advice: 6 Ways To Live Better

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On my eternal quest for self-improvement as an employee, friend, wife, and person, I decided to share my top six tips to live a better life… starting today.

Tip #1: Simplify.  Graham Hill says that “less stuff = more happiness” in this short presentation.

And it’s true.  A wealth of research supports the idea that spending your money on experiences makes you happy, but spending your money on stuff does not (Source).  Another amazing TED Talk that covers the importance of simplification can be found here.  Start to simplify today!  Go through your closet and donate anything you haven’t worn in the past year.  Next, go through your HOUSE and donate anything you haven’t used in the past year.

Tip #2: Live Within Your Means.  Tip #2 is about adjusting your needs and wants to fit the money you have to spend (Source).  This means setting a budget and following it without the use of credit cards and loans.  Cut costs.  Change wasteful habits.  Stop spending money on nonsense.  Penn State University has an amazing reference guide for how to start living within your means right now.  You can find the article here.  Yes, Tip #1 and Tip #2 go together in many ways, and I think these two are the foundations to leading a more successful, happier life.

Tip #3: Grow.  Instead of spending your free time mindlessly watching reality television or playing on Facebook for 4 hours, develop hobbies that actually contribute to your growth.  You should learn every single day.

A polymath is “a person of great learning in several fields of study” (Source).  A Renaissance Man is an example of a polymath, and we can learn a lot from the Renaissance Ideal.  The Renaissance Man was expected to speak multiple languages, play instruments, write and create art, and study all subjects: literature, science, philosophy, etc.  You’re not too busy to learn something new every day.  Carve out an hour of your time to read a book, to take a new course at your local community college, to start learning to speak Spanish, or to cultivate a new hobby such as cooking, gardening, or running.  On a personal scale, grow as a human being.  Learn the things you can change and tweak about yourself to improve your friendships and your relationships.  Grow as an employee and volunteer.

People are often unwilling to learn and grow because “learning and growing involve risk” and “change brings about unfamiliarity, and with unfamiliarity comes insecurity” (Source).  Yes, it’s easier to sit back and view the latest episode of The Real Housewives of Whatever, but what are you actually getting from your hours of TV zombie brain?

Tip #4: Connect.  Connecting with others is essential to living a better life because we all need human interaction.  Mental Health America proposes the following:

  • In one compelling study, a key difference between very happy people and less-happy people was good relationships.
  • Connection happens when you get tangible, concrete help; emotional support; perspective; advice; and validation.
  • Make friends and develop your support by enrolling in a class; joining a group or organization; volunteering; and reaching out – a lot.
  • Strengthen the relationships you do have by finding time to connect.
Do not connect with harmful people for the sake of connecting.  Keep your relationships positive, as a “bad relationship can hurt you even more than a good relationship can help you” (Source).  ***You should never remain in an abusive friendship or relationship for any reason.  Click here for signs of an abusive relationship, red flags of an abuser, and ways to extract yourself from the situation.***

Do you have enough human connections?  Adopt or foster a pet to increase the love in your life.  Find out more here.

Tip #5: Contribute.  Contribute on a local scale as well as a global scale.  Contribute to at least one cause or organization that you believe in.  Contribute your time, your skills, and your finances.

How can you get involved today?  Check out the following links:

Tip #6: Be thankful.  Write down or think of at least one thing every single day that you are thankful for.  Carving time out of your day to focus on the positive instead of the negative will allow you to live a better life.

This week, my husband and I are dealing with a plumbing issue.  We’ve had to completely shut off our water due to a leak, and our home insurance company is, of course, insinuating that they won’t pay for repairs.  Living without water for a week has really made us realize how lucky we are just to have running water at our fingertips!  The little things that we take for granted are still things to be thankful for.  What are some things you’re thankful for this week?

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What are some tips you have to living a better, more fulfilling life?